I’ve been reading around to get some women’s perspectives on BDSM and I came across this post. Here’s an excerpt from a female submissive’s blog:
The other point to make here is that the amount of ‘pampering’ and other such treatment of me by Sir, has definitely increased during my pregnancy. Most of it can be seen as my Master taking care of me, and trying to help alleviate some of the difficulties, uncomfortabilities and worries i have been experiencing, and He is also of course looking out for the welfare of His unborn child in doing so. So the treatment i have been experiencing recently is not typical of how He normally treats me as a slave. Having said that, i am aware that i receive much better treatment than many other slaves do, for example Sir will often take time to paint my nails for me, and if i offer Him a massage He will sometimes choose to reciprocate with one for me. And there’s many many little things He does for me such as brush my hair, or wash me in the bath, or give me a foot rub, and so on.Some people would frown on that sort of treatment of a slave by her Master, and say He is spoiling me and stepping outside of His ‘role’ and weakening the dynamic, and such like. But i don’t see it like that. Firstly, it is Sir’s choice to do those things or not, and sometimes i get them and sometimes i don’t. He does them purely because He wants to, because it makes Him happy to do them, or because He has some other motive in mind when He performs them. And to be honest, it reflects His treatment of me as a whole – yes i am His slave and under His control, but that doesn’t mean that He wants to treat me as a piece of dirt, or ignore me, or neglect me. He happens to love me very much, just as i love Him, so making me happy and content is something that He likes to do, as His lover as well as His slave. my roles as ‘slave’ and ‘girlfriend/fiancee’ kind of blend into one and the boundaries between them get blurred, but i am pretty sure that Sir would treat me in a similar way (with regards to the ‘pampering’) were i only one of these and not both.i never ever expect or demand or even ask for this kind of pampering treatment, i view it as a luxury, a treat, a bonus, and feel very lucky any time that Sir chooses to dole it out to me. And often, Sir is very intuitive and chooses to give it at times when i need it most – such as when i’ve had a bad day and am feeling low, or tired, or cranky, or achy. So He meets my needs in that way, without me even needing to communicate the problem to Him. i also find that being pampered by Sir helps us to connect in a different way than other activities do, it broadens the dynamic between us and strengthens our love for each other. i see it a bit like having a much loved pet – Sir wants me to be as happy and healthy and well-looked after as possible, as well as maintaining my body for His pleasure, and pampering treats are one way in which He keeps His property in top condition. i guess it’s comparable to taking your dog on a walk, and grooming it, and buying it toys, and giving it nice food and treats, and stroking it, and playing games with it…..
That’s right. She analogizes the way she’s treated to the way one would treat a dog AS AN EXCUSE for the fact that her fiance doesn’t make her sleep on the floor while she’s pregnant.