Happy birthday to me.

My blog is a year old today. I don’t particularly know what that means, but it is nonetheless a fact and I’m going to reflect on it.

This blog has turned out to be quite different than I thought it would, and vastly more successful. I originally thought I’d be posting once or twice a week with my take on this or that sexist commercial or television show, but it has turned out to be something a lot more involved and complicated, and much more interesting and enlightening (for me). I also thought I’d be lucky if five people wanted to hear what I have to say. 

I would like to thank everyone who reads and comments  (and isn’t an MRA or a 4Chan member) for helping me to develop as a feminist and as a writer over the last year and for helping me create enough controversy to amass 180,000 hits in just twelve months. I always figured that being a provocateur would serve my purposes well on this blog, that if I made a bunch of outrageous statements I’d get people to read what I had to say and that maybe I could sneak something in between the stupid jokes and feigned absolutism that would start to change their minds. I think the comments and links that people have favored me with have been a big help in that endeavor.  I also think, however, that I can get blinded by my own arguments and forget that not everyone has followed the same train of thought I have to get where I am at any given moment. As such, I’m grateful to the commenters who carry on such thoughtful and diplomatic discussions on hugely controversial topics in my comment sections, and especially those who try to find ways to sensitively address the objections of other commenters. And thanks also go to those who tell me I’m full of shit for helping me to see the holes in my arguments or helping strengthen my conviction that I’m right. 

I’d also like to thank all of the radical feminist bloggers who have helped me get involved in the world of radical feminist blogging and who have made me feel welcome in their community.  Having the kinds of opinions I have has been pretty lonely at times, so making my way into this community has been a really rewarding experience. I’m still in the process of figuring out how to approach all of the audiences I want to write to, and I know that my attempts at converting others to the cause sometimes irritate the women who already identify as radical feminists, but I think I’m making progress on that front. I’ve still not come up with a perfect comment policy that will allow radical feminists to use my blog as a place to discuss issues and will still allow me to engage with people who don’t identify with radical feminism, but I’m also working on that. Suggestions are always appreciated. 

I know I’ve been something of a slacker lately, but I plan to get back to writing posts more often (as school and life allow). 

Anyway, thanks everyone!

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17 thoughts on “Happy birthday to me.

  1. Happy birthday to you and to me as well. I may not have commented here much, if at all, but I’ve been “watching” on my RSS reader.

    Happy birthday again and keep up the good work.


  2. Congrats for being a year older than when you started this ;)

    More to the point, congrats for being honest enough to admit that you are capable of having flaws in you musings/philosophy/whatever. You often see people arguing about a cause who become fixed in their beliefs and lose the plot.


  3. I think I stumbled on your blog back when it was new, and I’ve enjoyed reading it this past year. Your porn series in particular was very powerful. I recommended it to a few people IRL whom I felt needed to read your words.

    I don’t care to comment much, because I don’t like to deal with men and sex-pozzies when it come to radical feminist stuff b/c it’s tiresome. My overarching goal in life is less stress/less aggravation/more fun, and I don’t think it’s fun listening to men whine about how bad they have it, or listening to sex pozzies go on about how radical feminists are denying them agency.

    So, I’ll continue to read your blog, but I’ll skip the ludicrous comments. Other women, made of sterner stuff than I, can join in the fray.


  4. hey, happy anniversary from me as well. an unlikely blog for a muslim hijab-wearing woman like me to come to, but i really appreciate what you write and can relate to it. you put words to a lot of the arguments i wish i could have made. and you make me feel sane, because so many of the voices against pornography & all the other stuff are religious right-wing morons who are just as bad as what they complain against. i hate being on the same side of the argument as them. which is why i love the way you explain that this stuff is bad because it’s just plain wrong.

    keep up the good work.


  5. I didn’t know you were only a nipper! This means I’ve been reading yer blog pretty much since the beginning. I’ve learned loads from you ND. Happy BDay. Keep it up.


  6. Aw, happy birthday! I have no recollection of when or how I found this blog, but I am very happy I did. It was one of the first feminist blogs I read regularly, and one of the inspirations for starting my own.


  7. Congratulations, I second what other people have said. I was wondering though – are you going to finish the series on BDSM? The discussion got very interesting, but never really got finished.


  8. Hi Nine Deuce,

    I just wanted to say I am grateful you are here and writing. I’ve only posted once but I do read and relate to much of what you write. It really helps me to come here and be a part of this online community of like minded humans. Don’t feel quite so alone in my perspective. I am enjoying your posts on BDSM as well. All your posts on pornography have been eye opening and very validating.

    Congratulations on your first year and here’s to many more. Keep on keeping on…


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