How to Not Get Banned
As those of you who know me can attest to, I’m a populist and I’m all about free speech. However foolish it may be, I allow comments from men as well as women. Most are welcome in 9-2’s world, so comment away and say whatever you feel needs saying. I even like a few of the MRA-type comments because they’re good for a laugh here and there. BUT, there are some rules, as well as some consequences for breaking them (banishment):
- I approve all but the most idiotic comments, but I do check the URLs people post. If your site has any misogynistic or otherwise uncool (according to me) content, you can count on the fact that I’ll disable the link. I’m not letting juvenile anime-fan types ride my coattails to internet stardom.
- Don’t be an asshole. If all you have to say is “cunt” this and “whore” that, I ain’t giving you an audience. If you have something to say, find a way to be civil about it. I’m not required to expose my readers to insults or to give you a soapbox from which to insult me.
- Don’t bore me. If you make me respond to the same point more than once, you’re out. I’ll engage in discussion with all comers, but I won’t argue in circles with people who are not arguing in good faith, i.e. people who begin arguing knowing that they’ll never change their opinion regardless of what the facts say.
- Have a point. And have something better to say than, “some women suck too, man!”
- Don’t be stupid:
- If you’re a dude, that means that I expect you to approach this blog from the assumption that I’m not a weak-minded little flower, that I know much more about feminism and being a woman than you do, that I don’t need your advice on how to make my message more “palatable,” and that I don’t need advice on where to direct my anger. Please do yourself a favor and recognize superior knowledge when you see it. I promise it will save you the humiliation of my responses.
- If you’re a woman, that means don’t come here and tell me that I’m just as bad as men because I’m trying to tell you what to do. If you read and understand my posts, you’ll see that that is not the case, so if you make that claim, I’ll go ahead and assume you didn’t read the post or that you’re an idiot. In either case, I reserve the right to publicly embarrass you.
- For both sexes, if your comment makes it clear to me that you didn’t read the post, don’t get all butt-hurt when I point out your laziness and/or stupidity.
11 Comments
May 13, 2008 at 12:49 am
im 17 and a newbe on your website, but im serious, you are THE coolest person alive.
my friend showed me this website, and after reading alot of your blogs (im trying to read them all) i was so enlightened and you totally opened my mind and i see things differently now about feminism and being a woman in general. i know i sound a little dramatic, :) but u just have a very interesting point on things that i havnt heard before…. keep it up, your definately making a difference and helping destroy ignorance
May 13, 2008 at 1:02 am
karina - Thanks! That was an awesome comment to read.
May 13, 2008 at 5:19 am
Check it out, two of us 17 yr old newbies! I can’t quite remember how I got here, but I would like to second the praise and put some emphasis on your anti-porn series. I consider it an awesome resource and have referred a few people to it who were on the fence about porn. (If only I had the power to make things required reading.)
Anyway, great job and I appreciate it!
May 13, 2008 at 9:28 pm
Izzy - Thanks! It’s funny, I hated that series while I was writing it, but it’s turned out to be the most important thing on the blog. I’m glad to hear that there might be some fence-sitters who will see it. I hope that means the time it took to write might have been worth it.
May 16, 2008 at 4:04 pm
ya know, you should write a book….have you ever thought about it?
June 24, 2008 at 6:01 am
“Don’t bore me. If you make me respond to the same point more than once, you’re out. I’ll engage in discussion with all comers, but I won’t argue in circles with people who are not arguing in good faith, i.e. people who begin arguing knowing that they’ll never change their opinion regardless of what the facts say.”
Is this reciprocal? Can we expect that you can and will change your opinion depending on the facts?
I’ve often seen the “don’t bore” me clause use to delete comments and ban commenters who were basically winning the argument. Are you stating this is not ever your policy?
June 24, 2008 at 6:16 am
Let’s say that your 40% figure is right (no fucking way I believe that, though). When 94% of prosecuted rapes end in acquittal, that means that 34% of actual rapes are going unpunished. Still pretty shitty, no?
June 24, 2008 at 6:21 am
Um, thanks for your response, but I think you were referring to a comment in a different thread. I’m not sure if I should wait until you repost your response in that thread. But I think I will wait….
June 24, 2008 at 6:48 am
I was, but I’ll respond to this one now (the others may have to wait as I’m out of town).
I’ll change my mind if someone shows me a logical, holistic argument backed with reliable facts. The fact that such a thing has yet to happen doesn’t mean it can’t, but it is quite unlikely, since I’ve thought about the opposition to all of my arguments thoroughly. In any case, I’ll discuss these issues with anyone who is doing so in a civil and thoughtful way.
July 16, 2008 at 8:35 am
I just found this blog (thanks to HellOn Hairy Legs) and have also just started my own feminist-issues blog. I’m trying to articulate my position about porn and the sex industry (among other things) and yours is one of the blogs that’s given me a lot to think about. If it’s cool with you, my blogroll is honored by your presence. ^_^
July 16, 2008 at 3:47 pm
Of course it’s cool with me. Welcome aboard. I’ll be checking your blog out ASAP.
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