I’m, like, totally a populist and I’m all about free speech. However foolish it may be, I allow comments from almost everyone, so comment away and say whatever you feel needs saying. BUT, there are some rules, as well as some consequences for breaking them (ridicule, banishment, etc.):
- I’m opposed to porn, prostitution, and the comingling of sex and power that characterizes both and is a detriment to healthy sexuality, and many of my readers agree. Anti-porn feminists are doing something very brave by opposing a hegemonic influence on society, and I want to provide them with a safe place to discuss their views with other like-minded people where they don’t have to feel besieged. I also want the opportunity to engage in discussions with people on all sides of these issues in order that we might move forward in some way, but I’ve got to find a way to balance those two goals, and this is it: if you aren’t opposed to porn, you’re welcome to comment here, but please do so directly to me or to other commenters who have indicated that they are open to that. Please do not address anti-porn feminists/radical feminists without asking them first if they want to be addressed. I’ll delete any comment that does not adhere to this guideline.
- Don’t be an asshole. If you have something to say, find a way to be civil about it. I’m not required to expose my readers to insults or to give you a soapbox from which to insult me.
- Don’t bore me. If you make me respond to the same point more than once, you’re out. I’ll engage in discussion with anyone, but I won’t argue in circles with people who are not arguing in good faith (i.e., people who begin arguing knowing that they’ll never change their opinion regardless of what the facts say). That means: if you’re a dude who is just positive feminists are nothing but whiners and who likes to spend his time sapping feminists’ energy on the internet with ridiculous arguments about how good we women have it these days, you can piss off.
- Have a point. And have something better to say than, “Some women suck too, man!”
- Be familiar with Feminism 101. If you’re a dude, that means that I expect you to approach this blog with the assumption that I’m not a weak-minded little flower, that I know much more about feminism and being a woman than you do, that I don’t need your advice on how to make my message more “palatable,” and that I don’t need advice on where to direct my anger, among other things.
- True or false: We live in a misogynistic culture, and feminism is thus necessary. If you answered true, you’re probably welcome here. If you answered false, fuck off.
- I’m the king of Dirk. This is my blog, I can delete whatever I want to delete, and the criteria upon which I base my decision to allow my delete-button-pushing finger to do its work change depending on my mood, how busy I am, and whether I’m drunk. I suppose that means that you commenters ought to make sure your comments aren’t likely to bore or irritate me. That doesn’t mean I’ll delete something just because I disagree with it, but it does mean I reserve the right to delete anything snotty, whiny, or manipulative. If you’re really upset that your 874-word comment didn’t make it past moderation, consider the fact that you might be a) a presumptuous asshole, b) a crybaby MRA, c) stupid, or d) all of the above (D being the most common scenario).
- Check your punctuation, spelling, and grammar. If I think you’re an asshole, I’ll make fun of you if you misuse its/it’s, their/there/they’re, or your/you’re. If I like you, I’ll pretend I don’t notice.
- Please, please, please, spare us the pointless personal sex anecdotes. I promise, no one gives a shit. If you have had an experience that directly relates to the topic being discussed, feel free to recount it, but that is by no means an invitation to every narcissistic geek with a set of handcuffs to regale us all with the details of his/her sex life in a salacious, explicit (and yet still boring) five-page comment capped with “and that’s why I think your kind of feminism is lame.”
PS – I’m sparing with links. If I bother including them, you should click on them.