Apparently some porn agent in Atlanta really wants me to get back to blogging.

9 Jun

Or else why would I have received this e-mail from one Delicious Freak?

MANDI KANE/ADULT MODEL AVAILABLE FOR IMMEDIATE WORK:

Real Name: _________ *
Stage Name: Mandi Kane
Current Location: _____ *
Age: 22
Race: White
Height: 5’3″
Weight: 115lbs.
Stats: 36B- 26- 36
Hair: Brunette
Eyes: Green
Skin: Fair
Dress: 3-5
Shoe: 7
Piercings: None
Tattoos: 4 (2 Front, 2 Back)
Available for website/film/photos including Solo, Toy, G/G, B/G, G/G/B, B/B/G, Light Bondage, School Girl, Submissive, Spanking (Receiving).
Fetish, Multiple partners,Interracial negotiable.
EROTIC DYMES INC.
adult models, performers and entertainers
Booking:Info & Rates
Email: eroticdymesinc@gmail.com
706-300-9356

“Perception is reality.”

I’d include the accompanying photos, but then, you know, you’d all be as bummed as I am right now, and I don’t wish that upon any of my lovely readers.

Where to start? Let’s think first about the name of the company, Erotic Dymes. One could interpret that name in one of two ways, and I can’t decide which one is more offensive. On the one hand, they could be referring to the women they represent as dimes, as in tens, as in reducing human beings to numbers on a scale that measures exactly how interested the average porndog would be in using them for the one purpose he (and pretty much everyone else) thinks they were born for. On the other hand, they might just idolize Ludacris, in which case they’d be referring to the women they represent as dime pieces, as in a dime a dozen, as in completely valueless as human beings once they’ve served their extremely limited purpose. Something tells me it’s a little of both, even if they aren’t copping to the latter view.

Then there’s the detailed physical description. Is it just me, or does that shit read like something out of a shopping catalog? And what are catalogs for? To sell objects for people to use until they tire of them and throw them away. I know more about this woman’s physique than I do about my best friend’s, and she’s a complete stranger. I do not, however, know anything else about her at all, because she’s not a real human being, she’s an object for sale by men to men to be used for whatever purpose men who hate her for no reason want to put her to so that they can make a profit selling images of men using her body to other men who hate her for no reason so that they can jack off more efficiently. Delicious Freak, it seems, wants to sell me a human being.

In fact, it would seem that the only thing that separates this electronic epistle from your average product description is the fact that this product gets a say in whether she fucks black guys. Now, there’s no fucking way I’m going to make the argument that this woman is somehow morally reprehensible for putting limits on what she will and will not allow to be done to her for money, but something about that “interracial negotiable” thing has just given me the kind of heebie-jeebies one only gets when confronted with an absolutely elephantine pile of tangled intersectional oppression and exploitation.

And finally, I can never resist ripping on people who break out quotations in inappropriate contexts (and there is no appropriate context for breaking out quotations). “Perception is reality.”  Delicious Freak, it appears, is a philosophy major. Despite the incongruous and dorky nature of that quote, I’ll go ahead and put it to the test: my perception is that everyone involved in selling women’s bodies — if there’s any justice in the world — ought to have a skydiving accident this weekend, that everyone on Earth hates women, and that the author of this e-mail couldn’t possibly have barked up any wronger tree even if he were a representative from La Raza hitting Lou Dobbs up for a platinum circle donation. Well, would you look at that.

I’ll be back tomorrow with more posts than you can shake a vegan corndog at.

* I’m not publishing this woman’s real name or location in relation to this abominable bullshit in case she should some day decide she’d like to get out of the porn business.

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31 Responses to “Apparently some porn agent in Atlanta really wants me to get back to blogging.”

  1. Imaginary June 9, 2010 at 6:27 PM #

    Ummm…. what? Are they seriously giving out this womyn’s persunal information to complete strangers who, if they showed even the slightest interest in the product/persun being abused, they already know has violent, disgusting, horrible, evil, retched tendencies and desires?

    If the womyn they are violating reads this, have an internet hug. We wish you the best. I hope someone kicks your employers in the balls.

  2. Miss Andrist June 9, 2010 at 6:54 PM #

    I had a similar experience today.

    Today, a colleague (another developer) mentioned a web server neither of us had heard of before. We both zoomed over to its site to check it out. Turns out it’s totally better than the one 80% of all websites on the internet use and both are free. It already runs 6% of all the sites on the internet, which is amazing. It was built to serve the second-most popular site in Russia, and now runs some of the most popular sites on the internet, such as WordPress (#26) and Youporn (#27).

    And this is the point at which I flipped the fuck out.

    Metrics shit indicates that just over half the Internet is devoted to websites showcasing men raping women for men’s entertainment, aka porn. My colleague’s primary point of surprise? That a porn site had risen to #27. My reply? Surprise that non-porn sites were even listed in the top 100. Raping women is men’s favorite pastime, and as a web developer, there is no fucking way for me to avoid this reality.

    And in the four hours since men shoved their merciless domination of women back in my face, I have received nothing but pro-porn, anti-woman dudepro propaganda from three different dudebros all strenuously towing the dudebro party line and if I make it through the day without shooting somebody, it will be a god damn miracle.

    As a former escort, this type of spec sheet is an absolute standard. For ten years, there was a website devoted to men reviewing sex workers. If it hadn’t been taken down earlier this year, I could link you to reviews of me.

    I am consumed with hate and fear.

  3. Miss Andrist June 9, 2010 at 6:56 PM #

    …I should set up a dummy mail server to spam that email to death and bomb that phone number until it’s flagged by the FBI.

    *RAGE*

  4. OutsideLookingOver June 9, 2010 at 10:53 PM #

    This website and its valuable insights into the current status of womankind on earth should be required reading not only for every teenage boy (and his dad) but also clerics who want to truly understand the problem (and solution: remove male entitlement) correctly.

    I’m changed, due to these eloquent, articulate women… and to all of them, a profound thank you!

  5. polly June 9, 2010 at 11:16 PM #

    Well to be boring, I guess they’ve set up some kind of sophisticated e-mail spammer thing which scans for certain words and e-mail addresses occurring together and if it sees ‘bdsm’ ‘porn’ etc fires off a spam.

    Do you know I can’t get on your site at work ND? Because it’s related to sex?

  6. berryblade June 10, 2010 at 1:40 AM #

    I’m still trying to comprehend the fact that a human being is reduced to a marketing exercise.

    Good to see another post from you N.D

  7. Rachael June 10, 2010 at 2:41 AM #

    What I don’t understand (or at least don’t want to) is how some men act like it’s -good- that they don’t see sex workers as human beings–you know, because it’s not really cheating if there’s no emotional connection. And really, that’s what these ads are saying. Nothing about cheating, of course, but that whole message about how “we” (the targets of these ads) aren’t really interested in these women’s non-sexual talents, their intelligence, their hopes, their dreams, or even whether they enjoy what they’re doing or not.

    It does look more like a catalog than anything. Actually, it reminds me of those ads for blow-up dolls, which really ought to tell you something.

  8. Miss Andrist June 10, 2010 at 7:46 AM #

    @polly:

    You mean email filtering? …it’s a Gmail account.

    Or you mean a spider? Sophisticated, hardly. The same functionality drives search engines (spiders index and cataloger teh interwebs.) Most hostile bots scan sites for security vulnerabilities such as open ports. Others scrape content for email addresses. Every time prevention techniques improve, some jackass updates the regex matching and redeploys his army of drones. As the sayings go, half the malware out there is really just crappy developers writing shit code and one person’s search engine is another person’s denial of service attack. That email address probably forwards to all sorts of spambots. If so, spamming it with my own little platoon of fake shit could theoretically send them all into conniption fits.

    What can I say? I’m sick of this shit.

  9. polly June 10, 2010 at 12:55 PM #

    Well when I say sophisticated I mean related to the folks who send me offers to improve the size of my penis, Miss Andrist. In that at least it’s vaguely targeted.

  10. GXB June 10, 2010 at 9:30 PM #

    Ugh.
    Looking forward to more posts though.

  11. Miss Andrist June 11, 2010 at 3:27 PM #

    @polly:

    Two different bots happening. The remotely sophisticated one hits sites for email addresses and gives them to the ones that send emails to your penis.

    I want to break them. Who’s with me?

  12. OutsideLookingOver June 11, 2010 at 3:48 PM #

    “I want to break them. Who’s with me?”

    Sounds extremely interesting and highly useful – my spam inbox used to be choked with them. Colour me in!

  13. Jim June 11, 2010 at 4:16 PM #

    Welcome back, ND.

    Good to see you calling out these dirtbags for turning human beings into commodities again. You know, I don’t even pay attention to the spams I get anymore. G-Mail has this useful feature where you can select all the messages and toss them in two clicks. For the win.

    Hope to see more material from you. J

  14. joy June 11, 2010 at 10:59 PM #

    Yeah, Jim, how about the fact that those spams exist in the first place?

    And the sick people who make them, and the sick culture that must exist in order for them to be made?

    I’m pretty sure that was the point here. Not “ND has a shitty spam filter.”

  15. Konservo June 12, 2010 at 12:35 PM #

    You have your email address typed in full at the bottom of the blog…. oh, wait a minute… ‘joy’ seems to be taking ‘Jim’ to task for talking about spam email, so I guess that has already been mentioned in one of the above comments. Anyway, if you want to keep your inbox clear of non-human correspondence, you should do something like ‘man-chine [at] blahblahblah.com.’

  16. Jim June 12, 2010 at 1:17 PM #

    joy – Agreed, 100%. I’m pretty sure I indicated that:

    “Good to see you calling out these dirtbags for turning human beings into commodities again.”

    Your reason for deciding to disregard that remark is your prerogative. I’m not going to get into a pissing contest with you about that. However, I totally agree that we live in a very sick culture that uses women and girls as commodities for male consumption, which is why I refuse to patronize strip clubs or watch porn. ND hits the nail on the head about these issues, again and again, which is why I read her blog. I don’t want to be “that guy” because “that guy” is repulsive and contributes to the problem rather than the solution.

    I’m not asking for a pat on the back, either. I’m just asking you to get up off it. If you point a flaw in anything I have to say, fine. I’ll have something to chew on, such as reference to the G-Mail filter – but I did reference the asshats who send these messages off in the first place. It’s all right there in black-and-white.

  17. Jim (formerly seen as syndicalist702) June 12, 2010 at 1:31 PM #

    Sorry y’all. I changed the name I’d been using because it had been so long since I commented on here that the fields didn’t auto complete. My bad.

  18. Jim (formerly seen as syndicalist702) June 12, 2010 at 1:38 PM #

    Joy – You know, I think I was unfair in my previous response to you. What I failed to acknowledge is that, statistically speaking, you had every reason to assume that I didn’t get the message ND was trying to express here – because most men are completely unaware or refuse to acknowledge patriarchy and the necessity of radical feminism. I’ve been reading blogs like this one for a while, though, and have learned a lot as a result. Still, my apologies.

  19. joy June 13, 2010 at 12:38 PM #

    Well, Jim, apology accepted. I wasn’t trying to get into a pissing contest either.

    I’m not sure how I came to miss the line that you quoted there, but given the fact that Konservo then came on here and basically turned the post back into “ND, you’re asking for it by posting your email” — yes, I do still stand by my go-to assumption that Men Don’t Get It.

    If you’re one of the men who does, then great.

    However, if I may remind all of you at large, one internet feminist saying, “You may be missing the point, although I cannot tell” is neither an incitement to anger nor a threat.
    It is one internet feminist saying, “Could you please clarify? I may be mishearing you as a bunch of blah blah blah.”

    Telling that internet feminist to “get off it” (ie, “shut your trap, hysterical hairylegged harlot”) is not really helpful. At best it’s a silencing behavior, at worst it’s an actual threat. Given that, for one thing, in person, I guarantee you COULD do me physical harm.

    Even if that was not your intent, as Miss Andrist recently pointed out on another thread re, racism, personal intent is often kind of meaningless when an action fits neatly into a history of systemic oppression.

  20. Jim (syndicalist702) June 13, 2010 at 5:20 PM #

    Response to Joy –

    “Well, Jim, apology accepted. I wasn’t trying to get into a pissing contest either.”

    I really appreciate that.

    “I’m not sure how I came to miss the line that you quoted there, but given the fact that Konservo then came on here and basically turned the post back into “ND, you’re asking for it by posting your email” — yes, I do still stand by my go-to assumption that Men Don’t Get It.”

    Understood. I wouldn’t have been so defensive had I kept that context in mind. Well, next time.

    “However, if I may remind all of you at large, one internet feminist saying, “You may be missing the point, although I cannot tell” is neither an incitement to anger nor a threat.
    It is one internet feminist saying, “Could you please clarify? I may be mishearing you as a bunch of blah blah blah.”

    Agreed. It won’t kill me to clarify myself.

    “Telling that internet feminist to “get off it” (ie, “shut your trap, hysterical hairylegged harlot”) is not really helpful. At best it’s a silencing behavior, at worst it’s an actual threat. Given that, for one thing, in person, I guarantee you COULD do me physical harm.”

    Truthfully, I never thought of it that way. The last thing I want to be is threatening. This reminds me of that “Schrodinger’s Rapist” post I read a while ago. I reckon I lost sight of that. Again, it won’t kill me to clarify myself. My bad.

    “Even if that was not your intent, as Miss Andrist recently pointed out on another thread re, racism, personal intent is often kind of meaningless when an action fits neatly into a history of systemic oppression.

    Word. Thanks for the reminder. Sometimes we all need a kick in the pants.

  21. Jim (syndicalist702) June 13, 2010 at 5:21 PM #

    Joy, I forgot to thank you for responding.

  22. joy June 13, 2010 at 10:36 PM #

    Jim, no problem. Thanks for being a reasonable dude about it.

    You’re right, every dude — every living, breathing dude — is Schroedinger’s Rapist (or at least Schroedinger’s Misogynist) to me. And I have my reasons for holding to this principle. Times in my lifetime I have been raped, abused, or simply subjected to abusive internettiquette by men: a number far, far > 0.

    Some might say a “not reasonable until proven reasonable” viewpoint is a character flaw, or try to paint it as “misandry”, but I’ll tell you the times I’ve been raped or abused since I put it into use: 0.

    So thanks for being a reasonable dude.

  23. Jim (formerly seen as syndicalist702) June 14, 2010 at 7:45 AM #

    Joy – To sum up your reasoning: if you’ve been burned enough, who can reasonably blame you? I sure don’t.

    Thank you for, um, thanking me – but nobody owes me anything. I’ve made it my goal in life to be reasonable, fair, and just to everyone. Someone else did all the work to help me get to the point I am now – an awesome woman with whom I celebrate twelve years of marriage this coming Wednesday. I’ve been hard-headed, mean, arrogant, and unreasonable long enough. I want peace and that has to come from within. I am duty-bound to leave this world better than I found it – at least in my sphere of influence. The principles of feminism have been a big help in making me want to examine the world through a more just lens. That’s what brings me here.

    I’m not anyone special. I just hope that my sons grow up already knowing what it’s taken me years to learn. I hope that they don’t make the same mistakes I have.

    Here I am, venting my spleen, and this ain’t even my blog. I’ll shut up now.

  24. Rainbow Riot June 20, 2010 at 2:43 AM #

    Ugh. The thorough nature of that woman’s physical description makes me wonder how soon it will be before depth of vagina, anal tightness and presence/absence of gag reflex will be listed. It’s appalling how, just like ND said, it’s a product description. *shudders* They might as well have been marketing a sex doll. Except that sex dolls seem to get more respect than women.

  25. Mandi Kane June 20, 2010 at 1:15 PM #

    I am the woman that you wrote this blog about, and although I respect the power of free speech, I find this blog hurtful and slanderous. I am also asking that you remove it. I have also recieved several emails telling me that, although you claim that you haven’t sent my real name or pictures to anyone, they have been sent to several people by someone other than my agent. Please have a little control. Thank you.

    • Nine Deuce June 24, 2010 at 5:38 PM #

      I am sorry that you feel that way. I can tell you that my intent was not to slander you (which is why I took your real name and location out of the e-mail I quoted) or to offend you in any way. I have no clue who you are or why I received that e-mail. If people are seeing your photos and getting hold of your private info and you do not want that to occur, I would recommend that you advise your agent to stop using bots to forward them to random people who happen to use the word “porn” and have accessible e-mails on their websites. I strongly believe that pornography is harmful to women (both those who make it and women in general) and will continue to argue such. You are welcome to disagree and to comment here and to argue whatever points you think are relevant. I respect your opinion, but I will not take this post down. I will, however, remove your stage name from both the post and the comment if you would like.

  26. polly June 24, 2010 at 11:24 PM #

    Mandi, I have to ask: are you familiar with the internet? Have you never heard of one of those stories where someone say sends an embarassing e-mail about their sex life or their boss (typically) to one of their friends/workmates and it ends up forwarded to about 2 million people, and they lose their job/are on the front page of a newspaper?

    If your agent is sending out your details RANDOMLY, how on earth do you expect that they’re not going to get forwarded on? And why do you think Nine Deuce, of all people, who has carefully removed details that identify you from the post would be the person doing it?

    Really Mandi if you are THAT NAIVE, should you be in the porn industry at all? Serious question.

  27. berryblade June 25, 2010 at 2:46 AM #

    I would also like to know, polly.

  28. lizor June 27, 2010 at 7:55 AM #

    I reread the post and I cannot see anything that would constitute slander. It seems to me that the post is not about Mandi Kane but about the fact of and method by which she is being sold by Erotic Dymes.

  29. Muhammad November 22, 2010 at 5:55 PM #

    Damn…that’s all kinds of fucked up. Typical of the west; capitalizing on misery.

  30. milou February 5, 2011 at 11:31 AM #

    Rachael,

    Sorry to be a bit late with this, but, this:

    “What I don’t understand (or at least don’t want to) is how some men act like it’s -good- that they don’t see sex workers as human beings–you know, because it’s not really cheating if there’s no emotional connection. And really, that’s what these ads are saying. Nothing about cheating, of course, but that whole message about how “we” (the targets of these ads) aren’t really interested in these women’s non-sexual talents, their intelligence, their hopes, their dreams, or even whether they enjoy what they’re doing or not.”

    is right on. Thanks for saying that. This has been so much of my experience with dudes trying to excuse their women hatred. Oh you don’t think of them as human? Oh that really makes me feel tons better!

    Thank you

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