Gee, thanks for the uninformed male perspective. We NEVER get a chance to hear that. It’s certainly very important that those of us who have been following this story for months and are most at risk for harm from people such as KP take into account the thoughts of a dude who just happened upon the story and spent an entire five minutes getting the gist of what happened.

The one that really stood out for me had the first prostitute owned by the player be their little sister. Normally in games like this, prostitutes can become unhappy, and you have to let them keep more of their earnings or give them drugs to placate you, but in this one, you can also *let* them perform oral sex on you, which makes them happy and increases your score. Prostitutes could be as young as 14, but apparently the special pedophilia rules hadn’t been ironed out yet, they were still working on that.

Also memorable in that the person responsible for this also happened to call themselves “Isme”.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk

A PC game that allows players to gang rape virtual women – and then force them to have an abortion – has been banned from Amazon
In Rapelay, gamers direct a character to sexually assault a mother and her two young daughters at an underground station, before raping any of a selection female characters.

The game was intended for release just in Japan, but was on offer to British buyers through Amazon Marketplace, the section of the online store’s website open to third-party sellers.

But Amazon has now withdrawn the game after complaints from users, deeming it to be inappropriate. “We determined that we did not want to be selling this particular item,” a spokeswoman said.

As for general stuff on blog commenting policy- it sure is a minefield, and does of course depend upon what the blogger themself is trying to achieve. The problem with allowing comments that disagree (as opposed to those that are out and out abusive) is that there may be underlying hostility to those comments that is visible to some and not to others. This can make it harder for survivors to feel safe to comment. On the other hand, having the comments of those diametrically opposed is useful in that it illustrates precisely the bullshit one is fighting against. It shows people the reality of what is going on here.

Clearly, whatever policy is chosen, there are upsides and downsides. I will publish opposing comments if they are a) polite and b) not written by someone who has abused feminists elsewhere in the blogosphere. This is the line I choose so that (hopefully) most women to whom my words are useful and meaningful will feel comfortable to comment, and those who do not comment will at least feel able to read there with the least amount of discomfort. My priority is a safe space in which we can cut through the bullshit language of abuse and abusers and say things as they are. However, if my priority was to have a debate with as many voices as possible, my method would possibly not be ideal. I want to air my thoughts and hear from like-minded individuals.

I have very high standards of what constitutes politeness- or so I am told. But this is because I have an intense and accute awareness of hostility beneath the veneer of polite words.

However, I think that I, like you, am also trying to convince people, if I am completely honest with myself and everyone here. To what extent I can do that I do not know, and others would have to tell me. All I do know is that many women find it easier to comment at my blog because there is a lack of sex-pos abusive comments at my place. Not taking their shit has made a big difference to my blog, and, lo and behold, they seldom bother me now at my blog home. Nasty posts elsewhere, sure, but I don’t read them so it doesn’t affect me (I know what they’re gonna say anyway, why waste my time? :p )However, it took me about 2-3 yrs to make up my mind about what to do in terms of comment policy!

Anyway, sorry for the tangent. That’s meant to say that I was not aiming at you, Nine, when I commented, and to give my take on comment policy issue.

PS – You needn’t worry about self-aggrandizement. I’m all about it. Here’s a link to that post Laurelin mentioned.

In an act of shameless self-promotion, I suggest people read my recent post ‘On Consent’ which says it all.

That bunch are one reason why I would never go near sex pozzie blogs. I’m not going to hang out around sexually abusive, misogynistic men like that. I don’t understand how any woman could TBH.