Strange yes, but unfortunately not uncommon. People passionately supporting rights for Group A often like the oppression of Groups B-Z.

For some reason, it annoys me that people against rights groups never bring this up. So very many ridiculous attacks, you’d think they could mention a genuine concern for variety.

You wanna condemn the guy you dated for being an anti-semite, or for being sexist, that’s fair; but he did not oppress you for being white. He may have given you a lot of shit for it, and hey, that sucks and is an undesirable trait in a date, for sure, and I’m happy for you that you are well rid of him.

But PoC giving white people shit for being white? Is not oppression. PoC don’t have the institutional power to racially oppress white people. That’s Social Justice 101.

Suggesting that you are the victim of/vulnerable to racial oppression – I believe that is what you are suggesting? – when you belong to the one class of people who has all the racial power is actually somewhat offensive. Even to me.

*’race’ in scare quotes because the idea that humans come in different races is inaccurate. But we sure as hell come in different skin privilege classes.

Regards,
A(nother) Whitey

HAHAHA I agree! I fucking hate liberal men who only support feminism and women’s rights when it benefits them. They support women’s rights to be porn stars, strippers and prostitutes because they get something out of it! And as a rape survivor who has been date raped, I HATE rape jokes they are the cruelest things I’ve ever heard and every time I hear them I feel powerless. I can’t even tell you how many men I’ve known who have said rape jokes to me and they’re so oblivious to how it will offend and frighten me and other women. Do they really expect me to laugh at that shit when I’ve been raped, sexually assaulted, sexually harassed, and street harassed by altogether hundreds of men in my lifetime? FUCK THAT AND FUCK THEM! Hey I’ve got a joke for all you men who think rape jokes are funny: Women should force rapists AND men who tell rape jokes to drink menstrual blood while being castrated! HAHA-HAHA!

You know what else I’ve fucking noticed? It’s usually white men who make rape jokes. I was raped by my ex boyfriend who was a white man three years ago as of yesterday, I’m Mexican/Chicana and biracial from being part (ew) white, so after knowing my whole life that white men have oppressed women and people of color, I’ve learned first hand how that direct oppression feels, and I don’t have to respect white men who treat me less human for being a women or a Latina. I’ve forgiven a few men who have made rape jokes ONLY because they are best friends and I gave them a long talk and they apologized. Trust me, the memories are still painful but that whole issue with the VERY few men I was able to forgive was because of complex reasons. I forgive a few worthy people but I never forget… And the next man who tells a rape joke is going to get a mouthful from me!

Let’s stop laughing. Let’s stop tuning in. Let’s stop watching, and listening, and buying into a system that sells a false image of us back to us. To paraphrase what someone recently wrote over at IBtP, “everyone’s for sale and you’re tricked into buying YOU.”

Well said.

I cancelled my cable subscription a few days ago. I just kept thinking “Why am I paying The Man $53 a month to disrespect me?”, and finally decided that enough was enough. That bit of extra cash could buy something that’s actually useful, like more art supplies. :)