Comments on: Calculating risk: Should we avoid men?

By: Muhammad

Muhammad — Tue, 23 Nov 2010 08:01:57 +0000

I watch To Catch a Predator and it makes me so angry, I want to smash those guys in the face. My friend had to calm me down about a month ago when we were watching it because I get real animated and shout at the TV when that show is on. If I was on a Qantas flight or something and I was told I’m not allowed to sit next to a kid because I’m male, fuck, I’d be bummed out for sure, being accused of being a rapist or paedophile must be the worst thing someone could ever call me.

I know that guys can be dangerous, I live in a big city and I’ve been mugged and battered a good few times (I’m a young man and the young men are cautious of each other around here because of gang culture and stuff), a good friend of mine was stabbed to death, young men getting stabbed to death is fairly common around these parts…it’s ridiculous.

Like someone else said, I’ll try to carry on being a moral person, not because of what anyone else says, I don’t care about being praised, I’ll just be good for goodness’s sake, even if it doesn’t get me anywhere or make my life any easier…that’s all I can do. You shouldn’t need ‘incentive’ to act like a decent person.

By: Nine Deuce

Nine Deuce — Mon, 14 Jun 2010 03:31:28 +0000

Shhh. That’s the topic of my next post!

By: munkie

munkie — Mon, 14 Jun 2010 03:29:16 +0000

I hear this same argument when I criticize nearly anything bad in American society. It goes like this: “yeah it’s a shame women aren’t safe on the streets at night, but wouldn’t you hate to be one of those poor women who get beaten in the streets over in Afghanistan?” or “who cares if we lag behind developed nations in birth mortality; less women die during birth in American than in Afghanistan.” Is Taliban occupied Afghanistan really the measure by which we want judge ourselves? It’s like saying, “oh, you’ve got melanoma? Oh, Mensch, At least you aren’t getting an aneurysm, like RIGHT now!” Head, meet palm.

By: Imaginary

Imaginary — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 14:36:35 +0000

Perhaps bonobobabe would like a good man if she MET a good man. You can bitch about how men are being stereotyped as evil and such, but there is no reason to believe that there are any good men if one hasn’t met any good men.

By: Imaginary

Imaginary — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 12:12:30 +0000

You have no idea what you are talking about. Get one of your man-friends to pound your skull into a blender and turn it on. Then, while that’s going on, have your man-friend record the sound and post it on the internet. That would be more intellectually redeeming than anything you’ve ever said ever.

By: Amananta

Amananta — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 19:27:45 +0000

RE: good men vs. bad men: Yes, there may be some “good guys” out there. But even if they are somehow totally free from the desire to objectify or harm women (were they raised in a box?) they will still benefit from male privilege. That is to say, if an average mother gets up in the morning, feeds and clothes and cares for her child in an adequate way, she will be subject to criticism and advice and judged for everything she does or does not do to the child even if the child is perfectly healthy and content – whereas if a man gets up in the morning and does the exact same things, he will be given bonus adulation by society for even bothering. A man who doesn’t rape or kill his spouse and has a job automatically gets credit for being a “good guy”. What does it take to be a “good woman”? Does society even have such a category that a woman can unambiguously fit into? I can’t think of a woman’s lifestyle that isn’t used by someone as an example of how she is pathetic or useless or evil. Just for one example, if she has a job just like him, she’s a ball busting career bitch who neglects her family – and if she stays home to keep house she’s a lazy gold digging mental incompetent. All men get male privilege, whether they are “good” or “bad”.
Consider that men don’t deserve cookies simply for not committing crimes against women.

By: Mortality

Mortality — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 01:41:06 +0000

Rachelle, I’ve read an article about that study or a very similar one in one of my mum’s magazines (Bang! is a Swedish feminist magazine that my mum subscribed to) and the study was done with college men and I can check the actual numbers if I can find that magazine.

By: Nine Deuce

Nine Deuce — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 19:14:27 +0000

Ugh. UGH!

By: Rachelle

Rachelle — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 19:12:02 +0000

There was this statistic…I can’t find the paper now, but psychologists asked several hundred men if they knew they would never be caught or punished, given the free opportunity, would they rape a woman, the number was alarmingly high, but went up to nearly 40% when the language was changed from “rape” to “have sex with a woman who didn’t want to”.

By: Genevieve

Genevieve — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 13:51:46 +0000

I’m not surprised you don’t understand what I’m talking about, BlackThirteen. In fact, I’m not even surprised you’re not trying.